Monday, December 31, 2012

Rethink New Year's Resolutions!



This is a rant, and ought to be recognized as such. You have been warned!

Anyhow, I cannot help but notice that when New Year’s is upon us, the Internet and social networking sites are full of thinspo, not to mention Time’s Square’s live coverage.

I will be up front here—I’ve never been a big fan of the New Year’s holiday. I am a tremendous proponent of the old adage “to each their own,” but when it comes to this particular celebration, I experience difficulty discovering one thing about it that I truly look forward to or enjoy. For the most part, the general tradition is to get “crunk,” watch the ball drop, and vow to hit the gym more often. I suppose that just isn’t my speed, ha ha.

(Courtesy of Magiccrabz.blogspot.com)


This aside, I’ve noticed that a lot of folks I know and a lot of folks interviewed at Time’s Square frequently mention working out more often, sticking to a diet and losing weight.  

(Courtesy of Calm Down it's Just a Joke via my buddy Alan)


I find this rather disturbing, in honesty—the reason being that we as a society seem to believe that losing weight will make us better people. As though losing twenty pounds will lead to a twenty degree increase in desirability, worthiness, kindness and generosity. But if the pounds stay on, we just suck and will stagnate as losers until the next New Year’s. 

I guess what I will expound on here is that while it’s fine to consider maybe eating a tad better if your eating habits are less than stellar and are affecting your health, and also to consider getting more active if you are otherwise fairly inactive and would genuinely like to change that for your own sake, it’s not fine to adhere to the belief that you should attribute morality to eating (i.e. drink the “eating foods considered to be unhealthy makes you ‘bad,’ eating foods considered to be healthy makes you ‘good’” Kool-aid. Don’t. Do not. And if you start to? Spit it out), drop down to the size of a stick-bug and spend hours compulsively laboring in the gym every day trying to live up to societal fitness standards because “you should.” Because that’s what we’ve been led to believe, and not because that is unfailingly what is good for us. And always remember—losing weight will not make you a worthier or better person. You are already worthy and good regardless of your weight or appearance. 

(Courtesy of mind2body.net)


My feeling is that a better resolution than working out more, dieting more, and losing weight would be to love your body in all of its aspects and listen to and care for it as such. Life is short and precious, and really, you never can know what will happen tomorrow. So love each day, and part of that means don’t beat yourself up over a freaking cookie. That freaking cookie will not do a thing to harm you. It’s a baked mishmash of flour, baking soda, sugar, salt, eggs, butter and accoutrements. The systematic uploading of the belief that “this cookie will SINGLEHANDEDLY make me fat” into your brain is what WILL cause you harm. And in my experience, when I no longer bothered to worry about whether that demonic little iced raspberry pillow cookie monster would turn me into the Stay-Puft Marshmallow Man via its delicious black magic, I could suddenly stop at one or a couple and not feel a desperate need for the whole dang plate. I’m not sure why that is, but I guess it’s the fact that when sweets are no longer forbidden, they become far less interesting.  There is no longer a sense of urgency regarding indulging in them. Therefore, quieting the bids to be indulged from your sweet tooth is much easier… as the demand for them isn’t so pervasive, since if you’re not cutting said sweets from your diet, your mind and body both know they will still be available to you in the future. I hope that makes some semblance of sense. And that might not apply to everybody, but like I said, that’s just in my experience!

IZ GONNA MAKE YOU FAAAAT! MWA HA HA HA! (Source: crooksandliars.com)
NO, COOKIE. (Source: Facebook "Tardar Sauce the Grumpy Cat")

So when the New Year dawns on us, let’s keep the determination to love our bodies first and foremost in our minds, and let all of our other bodily goals (other resolutions unrelated to physical fitness or health set aside here), whatever they may be, follow however they will. Loving your body is the most important facet of true health. So… Love each day, and love yourself. ^_^

Love,
Kate 





Friday, October 26, 2012

Anorexia Nervosa Fact Sheet



Hello, everybody!  Today we will be talking about the basics of anorexia nervosa.  I figure that if we’re going to be covering this as a topic in future posts, we’ll likely do well with an informational page to refer to.  The saying is “know thy enemy” and here we’re dealing with a pretty complicated one. 

So… what is anorexia nervosa? 

Anorexia nervosa has been outlined as “an eating disorder defined by a refusal to maintain minimal body weight within 15 percent of an individual's normal weight” (www.nami.org.)  Some characteristics of this eating disorder include a severe, pathological fear of gaining weight, distorted body image, and denial of the seriousness of the illness (nami.org.)  

What are some signs of anorexia nervosa?

Signs generally vary from person to person, like most things, but some recurring common denominators are a refusal to eat or the exhibition of extreme ritualistic behavior revolving around eating, a pervasive preoccupation with food and weight, and (frequently) pronounced, noticeable weight loss, followed by a denial of the weight loss and the continued belief that one is fat.  Other good indicators are personality changes, withdrawal from social activities or from other activities that were once important to him/her (I do find it ironic—anorexia is partially characterized by a refusal to consume, and yet it seems to consume everything around it), low self-esteem, dishonesty regarding food intake, a depressed or flat mood, and etc.  (References: mayoclinic.com; helpguide.org.) 

Who is affected by anorexia nervosa?

While this has been stigmatized as an adolescent woman’s illness, studies have indicated that it also afflicts men, children, and adult women of any age group (nami.org.)  In other words, it could happen to anyone.  More than 90 percent of those who develop the disorder, however, are in fact young or adolescent women.  

What are some symptoms of anorexia nervosa?

Again, symptoms vary from person to person, but common symptoms include:
Irritability

Nervousness/paranoia

Inability to concentrate

Fatigue

Confusion/dementia


What are some physical complications/side effects of anorexia nervosa?

I repeat the varying thing. You get the idea. : ) Some physical complications and side effects of anorexia include, but are not limited to:
Osteoporosis/brittle bones

Changes in brain chemistry/seizures/potential damage  

Heart arrhythmia/disease/coronary

Kidney failure/changes in kidney function 

(References: umm.edu)

What causes anorexia nervosa?

Anorexia nervosa can be caused by any manner of factors, from genetics, to psychiatric disorders, to something so simple as environment.  The actual causes of anorexia, however, at this point, are unknown.  According to nami.org, the primary causes seem to be a mix of genetics and environment.  In fact, anyone with a relative (or relatives) who have had anorexia are ten times more likely to develop the disorder themselves, than a person without a relative who has developed the disorder.  Substance abuse and depression have also been linked to the onset of anorexia.  

In conclusion…

I hope that this fact sheet was helpful! ^_^ If anyone has any questions or wants to learn more, let me know and I’ll help find resources!

Tootles! <3 
Love, 
Kate 
(That is a Mario reference on my shirt, lol.)




Friday, October 5, 2012

Size Awesome Mission


Some weeks ago, after completing a 10-mile run with an ultra-marathoner from California, I settled down under the awning in front of the Up and Running storefront (where my training group meets) to relax, rehydrate, and stretch out my wobbly legs.  I was all giggles and school-girly excitement during my stretches.  I felt like the coolest person ever—I had kept up with a man far fitter than myself for a total of ten miles in weather like a nasty, wet, wool blanket and lived to tell the tale!  I think my big, stupid grin could be seen from outer space.  This was a big accomplishment for me.

Not bad for a very busy mom from Dayton, Ohio.  I happily eased into a figure-four stretch alongside a young gentleman who appeared to be about my age and figured I’d introduce myself once the opportunity arose.  It was only my second time running with the group, and I was determined to make friends with everyone.

His training partner leaned down to touch her toes.  I remembered her from earlier, when we’d shared a wave as she and the young man now stretching to my right ran by, heading in the opposite direction.  She was definitely a head-turner, lean and fit with an impressive pair of shapely, well-muscled legs.  Even her running attire was cute—a little light blue running skort, a matching fitness tank, and a bright pair of pink and blue shoes.  She was such a picture, in fact, that I fretted about looking a little silly in my Voltron t-shirt, running shorts that were in service even when Clinton was in office, and my severely abused shoes.  Oh, well.  Fashionably dressed or no, I figured I would still have smelled like a raw, chopped onion either way.  I scratched at an itch caused by my wet, sweaty sleeve against my arm and gave the girl what I hoped was a friendly smile.

Although she smiled in return, her underlying demeanor seemed agitated as she leaned from one foot to the other, stretching her calves.  She looked at the pedometer she wore on her wrist, and then compared it to her partner’s.

“Wait,” she said, frowning at the pedometer, “you burned over 2,000 calories and I only burned 1,070?”

“So what?  We ran the same distance at the same pace,” he pointed out. 

“I can’t believe that!” she mourned with a rueful grin at him.  “Such crap!”

“Well, hey, you looked like you were hauling to me!” I interjected helpfully.  “I’m sure you’re fine!”

“I don’t know, that pedometer suggests otherwise,” she laughed.  

“Pfft,” I said, waving a hand around, “there’s more to running than getting wrapped up in calories and whatnot.  You had a great workout.  I really wouldn’t worry too much about it.”

“Oh, I don’t,” she said dismissively.  “I mean, I eat a lot and everything.”

I immediately worried that I’d come off as self-righteous.  Well, this was a touchy subject for me, after all, given my history.  I decided to drop it rather than risk dropping potential pals.  “Well, that’s good,” I said, feeling a little awkward.  

The conversation fizzled out at that point, and I wound up chatting with a guy about my shirt, instead.  

This exchange with the pretty girl in the cute running shoes, short and trivial as it might seem, deeply disturbed me.  While I can’t say that this girl from my group has issues with food and exercise because I honestly barely know her (for all I know, she’s just competitive), it got me thinking, anyway.  I began wondering how many girls were here to try losing weight, get into better shape, or achieve what they perceived to be a better figure.  I dwelled on my own relationship with running, and how it had changed and progressed throughout the years.  I certainly don’t run to lose or maintain weight anymore.  I do have my own personal goals regarding my sport, but I won’t get into those here. I keep a separate blog for those. 

As I ruminated and stretched, a lady from T. Willy’s Frozen Yogurt came by to hand out samples. (For Daytoners—good stuff!)  She had an array of little cups of their Berry Tart frozen yogurt laid out like a miniature oasis on a tray.  I might or might not be lying when I say I busted a full-on cartwheel at the sight.

As I reached for a sample cup, a waspishly thin gentleman from the running group immediately queried after the caloric content of the yogurt before accepting his.  I paused in slurping mine down, a little surprised.  Most of these members were training for half-marathons, marathons, or 50ks.  Serious races.  The majority of them had started running a full hour before I’d even arrived to start my workout, and here I was, shamelessly reaching for a second sample when no one stepped up to claim the little dollop of yogurt.  I myself was astounded that such a tasty treat was only 90 calories per 8 oz. serving, but it occurred to me, too, that in my current state of mind, I wouldn’t have cared if it was 90 grams of fat per 8 oz. serving.  I decided that it was time to go home before I, uninvited, ran off at the mouth about not worrying about calories again.  I was getting the hypoglycemic shakes, anyway, despite the yogurt samples, and it was time to *gasp* eat.

While I can’t sit back and cast judgments on my fellow runners regarding their eating patterns and diet concerns (for many, calorie-counting is just a lifestyle, and their relationship with food is perfectly healthy, or they count calories to be sure that they’re getting enough rather than too many, and you get the idea), their calorie concerns, regardless, still brought up a lot of unsavory memories—memories of obsessing and fretting over the amount of calories in a given food item, meticulously calculating and tallying my intake every single day like an overzealous bookkeeper gunning for a promotion, panicking and sucking down laxatives like they were M&Ms or chocolate milk if I strayed over my self-prescribed daily calorie allotment even by a measly ten or fifteen, crying and slamming things Hulk-style against walls if I, for whatever reason, was unable to go for a run and burn calories I only imagined I had consumed.  Refusing to chew gum.  And worst of all, the memory of the numb, tingly, gnawing, strength-sapping, continual hunger.  Hunger that was self-induced, and made me feel like my limbs had gone zero gravity and were floating out to space.

This had gone on for months after I’d had my baby.  And my relationship with exercise was just as bad as my relationship with food.  My daughter was maybe six months old, and still waking up every two to four hours each night.  Despite the frazzled feeling of sleep-deprivation and the inherent spaciness that goes along with it, I would undergo rigorous indoor exercises each day, normally consisting of three sets of fifty bench dips, three sets of twenty-five push-ups, three sets of fifty legs-up bench dips, 1,500 crunches, a series of core exercises, fifty squats, and two sets of fifty calf-raises.  This was my daily routine, and I would also take my daughter for a long walk, or when I could work a run into my schedule, I would do that, too.

A well-timed visit to my father’s quickly put the kibosh on opting toward this behavior.  My stepmom came down on me like a Looney Tunes anvil out of the sky about my diet and exercise habits.  She’s always been the type to speak her mind and stand by what she’s said.  And in this situation, her words couldn’t have been more to the point, or better-put. 

“Don’t do this to yourself,” she said, point-blank.  “Don’t do this to your baby.”

I mulled that over the entire flight home. 

When I first saw a healthcare professional perhaps a week later about the possibility that I had a pretty serious eating disorder, I wasn’t sure what to expect.  For the most part, eating disorders, and anorexia in particular, are considered by the layman to be diseases of vanity, cultural pressure, and conscious choices.  I was still wondering why I was here seeking help if my doings were, in fact, of my own volition, and because I was vain and impressionable.  I still hadn’t even really accepted that I was anorexic, either.  I felt very self-conscious and shy when the doctor called me in, and also wondered if I was even thin enough to look the part.
After going over the basics of anorexia nervosa and body dysmorphic disorder, their effects, and the fact that I could not help what I was experiencing any more than a person with a chronic physical illness could, she produced a book from her shelf, and said, “Kaitlyn.  I want to read this to you.”

I tilted my head, my eyes widening to the size of dinner plates.  It was none other than Eric Carle’s The Very Hungry Caterpillar.

“…Okay,” I said.  I shifted awkwardly and leaned back in my seat.  I was unsure what the heck kind of place this book had in this session, but curious, too.  

When we got to the part of the book that was Saturday, we chuckled a little over the binge that Carle’s caterpillar partook in—I had just told her that only the night prior, I had caved in and scarfed down two chili dogs, a bowl of chili spaghetti, four bowls of ice cream, three Snickers bars and half a box of graham crackers with peanut butter.  I had had a stomachache, too—like the caterpillar.

At the end of the book, she smiled a warm, gentle smile at me and said, “So listen to me, Kaitlyn.  At this point, in order to become a beautiful butterfly, you should keep eating two chili dogs, a bowl of chili spaghetti, four bowls of ice cream, three Snickers bars, and graham crackers with peanut butter.”

A feeling of warmth spread over me.  For the first time in a long, long time, I felt truly nurtured, understood and accepted—eating disorder and all.  

It was a wonderful feeling.

I smiled back.  “Well, I’ll certainly try.”

Try I did, but it was a long, long time before I was able to get back into healthy eating patterns again.  In the time it took for me to find myself at a decent spot with food, weight and exercise, I had moved from Missouri to Ohio into my mother’s house, gotten a divorce, been through four different jobs, had a huge fight with my father and stepmother that resulted in a long estrangement, and reconnected with an old friend, who is now my husband.  While good things did come of the time that I was locked in this struggle, and things that have caused me not to have any regrets regarding my experiences, this was a seemingly endless fight spent in blurry horror.  

Given that I could not afford help at the time, I was practically alone in that battle.  I certainly don’t want to discredit those who stood by me and supported me while I struggled.  But the simple fact is that even now, I am still met with serious skepticism about the reality and severity of my eating disorder, and the truth behind it.  (The uncomfortable truth that this is not a conscious choice brought on by vanity, attention-seeking, culture, or even perfectionism alone.  It is not a phase.  It is not a ploy to become the center of everyone’s world.  No one with an eating disorder asked for one or strove toward one.  No one with an eating disorder dabbled in one like a person might dabble in a hobby for a while.)

I tell only a very select, trusted few about my bad days—days that I digress, feel down on myself or overly stressed, and want to slip back into bad habits.  I guess it’s only natural some might not feel it’s truly an issue for me if I don’t express myself.  But, here’s the thing—if I did, I truly fear what the reaction would be.  I have been called selfish, weak, an unfit mother, thoughtless, hysterical, and two-faced, just to name a few.  I have been told recently that it was just a phase I went through and that it wasn’t really anorexia.  After all, I never wound up in the hospital stuck full of tubes.  I could argue that that is simply because I was willing to do something about it relatively early on, because I had taken note of the effects my behavior had had on my loved ones. Being called selfish, thoughtless and two-faced hurt particularly badly.  I never meant to hurt a soul.

While I’m not angry or resentful, this is a large part of why I always felt so alone, and even now, don’t especially want to reach out when I have rough days.  I know fully well that I am not the only one who feels this way.  So many men and women struggle with this issue, and won’t reach out, either, for the same or similar reasons.  

I don’t want anyone to struggle with bad body image, body dysmorphia, eating disorders, low self-esteem, or etc. alone or afraid.  Anyone who battles these demons should never have to fight alone, or without any resources.  So if you are struggling and afraid to reach out—I want you to know that you do not have to feel that you are on your own. ^_^

Note! I will provide links to resources and relevant articles via this page, and will also post entries supplying information on eating disorders and body dysmorphic disorder.

Also note! Every two weeks or so I will discuss topics regarding body image, self-esteem, recovery, eating disorders, and other relevant issues as they pop up.  Please let me know if you would like to see something discussed on this page, too!  

And finally—thank you for visiting, and I hope that this site will be of help to those who need it.  ^_^ 

~ Kate